Finding Love

By: Stephanie Hockridge
By: Stephanie Hockridge

February 14, 2006

Love - it's a cornerstone of our humanity. Psychologists even consider it just about as essential as food or water. But, while it's relatively easy to find a good meal, love continues to be elusive, and the chaotic lifestyle of the 21st century doesn't make it much easier.

"Matchmaker, Matchmaker, make me a match! Find me a find, catch me a catch!" You know the fiddler on the roof scene well: Tevye's daughters dancing and singing, in hopes that a matchmaker will initiate true love. Although the trade dates back centuries, it hasn't exactly disappeared.

Real life cupid, Carrie Daichman is the perfect portrayal of old world matchmaker with a flare of modernization.

"I believe we're living in a very time strapped society. Many of my clients are professionals that don't really have the time to meet that special someone," Daichman said.

Two great examples of this are professionals just like Dot and George Preston who met almost 4 years ago through "It Takes 2."

"George and I live like 10 minutes from each other, but we went to different churches, different banks--we never would have met," Dot said.

But, you can't expect the perfect match to be your first date. Just like regular dating, it takes a few tries.

"You kind of have to be persistent, because you don't know what's available. So I say if you really want to meet somebody, you can't give up on it," said Dot.

For Dot -- it was lucky number 13, when she fell in love with Mr. Right.

While dot put all faith in a matchmaker, millions of other hopeless romantics are turning their luck towards technology.

"It's a society that looks for immediate gratification, and everything is 'how quickly can I meet someone? How many people can I meet?'" said Daichman.

Just add a worldwide system of interconnected computer networks and you're just a mouse click away from finding true love in the 21st century. There's online dating, speed dating, and now pod dating, but how reliable are they?

"One time I signed up for It's Just Lunch--it's dating for professional adults. It didn't really work out...I really wanted to get a blind date with a 30-year-old woman, and have just a really memorable time," Nate McFarland said.

It might not be as memorable for those seriously looking for love, which is why some decide against it.

"Obviously everybody's going to make themselves sound as good as they can, and you just never know what you're going to get," Gary Slaughter said.

"There's just kind of a security issue there, and you really don't know who you're talking to across the way," said Kristin Freshwater.

Before George met Dot, he tried online dating, but says its Daichman who helped him find true love.

"Thankfully I agreed to try because, out of this, I think I've gotten the better deal," said George.

After 4 years of wedded bliss, the Preston's consider themselves, truly, a match made in heaven.

Daichman averages 2-3 marriages a month and says although it is difficult, she tries her best to make it to all of the weddings.

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